-Day9-
“IF YOU BUNGLE RAISING YOUR CHILDREN,
I DON’T THINK WHATEVER ELSE YOU DO
MATTERS VERY MUCH.”
-JACKIE KENNED
I need to do this. I haven't yet. So I'm doing it now.
I'd love to hear from any and all of you who have words of wisdom for me. You can either leave me a comment or shoot me an email.
I can use all the help I can get. Especially this morning because I'm wondering what those long term rewards might be....
4 comments:
I had a parenting pay-day a week ago Sunday. DD received her (amazing!) patriarchal blessing, DS was ordained a Teacher, and that evening recieved his Eagle Rank at his court of honor. That whole day I was just astounded that THESE were my kids, and I love them. Also, I got hte feeling that the Lord sent them to me with so much already good, I really didn't want to screw any of that up!
i'm not more experienced, but i can tell you what my rewards after just 15 months have been.
last year was my first mother's day. it didn't really feel like it, though, because i just had a cute, squirmy, needy thing for a child. she was beautiful, but at that point she was almost more like a pet. i was giving and giving and mostly just seeing everything i was giving puked back up on me.
this year on mother's day, it felt for real. why? because my little girl ran up and hugged me around the legs. this year, she hugs me tight around the neck for no reason at all. she comes to find me when she gets hurt so that i can kiss it better. her face lights up when i walk in the room. she cuddles with me on the couch and watches shows. she loves me.
that's all i could have ever asked for in return.
I'm totally not more experienced, but I'm finally getting that spending time with my kids while they're little is way more important than the laundry. At least, until the underwear runs out.
Experience can be defined as having made the mistakes and learned.
So with that in mind, I think if I could do it all over again, I would learn to pick my battles. Somethings are NOT worth the fight.
You decide your non-negotiable's and then take the others as they come.
And DON'T FREAK OUT. They will get into trouble. They will be rebellious on some level or another.
And never imply, hint or send a subconcious message that your love is conditional.
And finally, NOTHING is ever more important than the relationship. Even when they don't choose what you want, it can't interfere with your relationship.
And I'm sure that you have already figured all of this out - I was/am a slow learner
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