Do you ever get the feeling that *GASP* someone doesn't like you?
Or that you *Horror of Horrors* annoy someone?
Or that you *Horror of Horrors* annoy someone?
And you don't know why?
You haven't been mean or rude to them ...
(that you are aware of)
Yet you just get the "vibe" that they don't like you.
What do you do when this happens?
Do you wrack your brain trying to figure out what it is about you
or what you have done that would make them dislike you.
Do you try harder to make them like you or do you just back off?
And for when the shoe is on the other foot...
Is there anyone that you don't like or that annoys you?
For no. good. reason?
They are a really nice, wonderful person who
has never done you wrong
they just...
"Rub you the wrong way"
"Are like fingers on a blackboard"
"Get on your nerves"
"Annoy the H*** out of you"
What do you do in that situation?
Do you avoid that person at all costs?
What if you can't avoid them?
What if you are constantly put in situations where
you have to spend time with this person?
Are you then rude and mean to them,
for no good reason,
just so they will leave you alone?
Do you just ignore them?
Or do you try to figure out just what it is that
"rubs you the wrong way"
and then try to look past that to the person.
Do you treat them the way you would want to be treated
if you were the "Annoyer" instead of the "Annoyee"?
I found this quote that really made me think...
Always when judging
Who people are,
Remember to footnote
The words "So far."
~Robert Brault
Who people are,
Remember to footnote
The words "So far."
~Robert Brault
So...what do you do in these situations?
12 comments:
It really depends. I will usually wonder why they don't like me, but that isn't long lived and I just move on and choose not to associate with them.
I've found myself in that kind of situation once. I hate feeling like someone just is annoyed by me or getting that "vibe" that. So I ended up serving them instead to get rid of my negative feeling. I made them muffins and visited them on a week night... just because. And little did I know, they were going through a big trial of their own and she needed a listening ear at the time. Now, we are really good friends and I don't remember why she bugged me at all in the first place.
I have tried for years and years to "make" people like me. Then I started to realize - there are a couple of people I don't like, and they did nothing to me. So there will be people who don't like me, for no tangible reason either. I'm learning how to make this okay. (Still learning - it is a process.)
I know I have been totally bugging someone here at school and I know exactly why - - but there is nothing I can do about it. I guess there was something I could have done about it, but not now.
I think I feel like I'm annoying people a lot but most of the time I don't think I'm right. I'm just annoying myself.
When it comes to people annoying me for no reason I usually find that I don't know that person well enough. When I get a chance to know them better I usually find enough things that I like to make up for the annoying things - or sometimes I even understand why they are annoying and I can deal with it. I have to admit that sometimes I will just try to avoid the person, but usually I can't.
One thing that doesn't help is gossiping or complaining about the person. You would think it would help to vent, but usually I just feel more annoyed and also guilty for talking about that person.
Certain personalities just don't get along. There are some people that I don't want to spend time with - people that are always negative or complaining or we just don't "get" each other, so I try not to hang around them much.
I do hate it when I offend someone unintentionally and I will do whatever it takes to try and make it right.
There are a couple of people I get that weird vibe from, and I think it's usually because I'm giving it off a little bit myself. It's usually people I'm a little intimidated by, because they're prettier, wealthier, more organized, etc. I try to accept everyone for who/what they are, so until someone makes the move to annoyer and I try not to be the annoyee... :)
I hate the feeling that I am bugging someone but have learned to just move on.
And for those that bug me - I avoid at every opportunitu
I have no misconceptions about my dorkiness and therefore, annoying of others. I try to be comfortable with myself and no care what others think but it's hard...I'm not trying to grate on nerves. However, being the annoying one gives me better perspective when others are feeling a little left out.
In a nutshell: Avoid contact as much as possible. Avoid talking as much as possible. Avoid everything as much as possible.
Use escape hatch as soon as possible.
If it was me... i would just dig a hole and jump in it... nayone lese agree???
I have found that this falls into one of two situations: eventually I find out why they make me uncomfortable and am provided beyond valid reasons to stay away from them. OR...
Eventually, I realize that they somehow unknowingly bring out a part of my personality I am uncomfortable with and instead of putting the blame where the blame belongs (on myself...because I don't like saying no, because they stand up for themselves when I don't? Because they aren't afraid to promote and ask for payment for their talents, but I am?) I decide I don't like them, for no reason. The truth is they like themselves better than I like myself, and that makes me uncomfortable. Its easier to just say, " I can't put my finger on why I don't like them."
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