Thursday, February 18, 2010

To Say Goodbye

To my amazing, beautiful, sweet sister...

Is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life.

Many of you have expressed here and elsewhere how you wish there was more that you could do than just leave a comment.

There is. If you are willing.

And it really isn't hard.

Please, please, please. If you have anyone. ANYONE you love dearly. Drive to their house, pick up the phone, type up an email or a text....

And tell them you love them today. Hug them. Tell them just how important they are to you in your life and how much they mean. Tell them how wonderful they are. Tell them "Thank you" for all of the big and little things that they have done for you.

And then? Do it again. And again and again and again. Say all of these things on a regular basis.

That's all you have to do.

That way when it comes time for you to say goodbye to them you won't have to wonder if they knew how you felt about them. You won't wonder if they knew just how big of a part they played in your life. You won't wonder if they knew how important they were to you.































Are you still here? This post is over. Now go! Go and do.

20 comments:

Jo said...

Knowing you, knowing your loving heart, I know you told your sister those things. I am just so sorry she is gone and so sorry she took part of your heart with her. I am thinking of you,

Kristina P. said...

I've been thinking about this a lot, in regards to my mom. We don't have a close relationship at all, but I always wonder how I would feel if she died today, and all the regrets I would have.

I will send her an email today.

elesa said...

I think you are so brave (or awesome or something like that) to write about this.

I only just saw your previous post and I am so sorry. And I'm sorry that you are the one who had to call your mom. I had to make a call like that once and it took about everything I had to be able to do it.

And yes, I have some sisters I really better email and tell them I love them. Thank you!

Barbaloot said...

Thanks for the reminder/encouragement. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with loss right now.

Bonnie the Boss said...

Taht is always a good thing to remember. thanks!

Vanessa said...

Thanks for the advice. I'm all over it!

Sher said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm going to hug my babies, and call my family right now!!

M-Cat said...

Such a great reminder. You just never know.

Good thoughts and prayers still coming your way

Amander said...

Really sweet reminder.

I hope you are doing all right.

Momnerd said...

Second day in a row now you made me cry. I'm off to do! Thank you!

tammy said...

This broke my heart a little. You are so right. There are some people in my life I'm good at telling, and telling daily, but others that I'm not so good at.

Emmy said...

I will do it.

Mary said...

great reminder...sending hugs your way!

tiburon said...

My heart is breaking for you. I can only imagine how hard things are for you right now. And I am sorry. And you are important to me. And you are wonderful.

Brooke said...

Thank you for that reminder. It was so good to see you this last week, even if it was under not so great circumstances for both of us. I pray you can feel some peace with your loss and I pray your family can feel her love and uplifting spirit as often as you need. Give your mom an extra hug from us.

Loves...

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wendy said...

Best advice ever.
I'll do it.
Cause there are alot of people who are so special to me....and I hope, NO I NEED them to know that.

lovely picture of your sister

Teachinfourth said...

Great advice. I really couldn't agree with you more...

Jessica said...

I am so sorry for your loss. And your words are very true...we need to show our love to the people in our lives in every moment.

The Boob Nazi said...

I'm sorry for your loss! I've missed your posts somehow.