Thursday, May 14, 2009

Trouble, oh we got trouble!

Right here in River City!
With a capital "T"

(Look at me. My last post had a Depeche Mode reference and now one from the Music Man. I'm nothing if not well rounded.)

Yes I've got trouble. With capital "T".

In the form of a girl.

A girl with a crush on George.

An older girl.

And a not so nice one at that.

She is actually in McKenna's class at school. I've met her. She came to her birthday party last year. I was not impressed with this girl. She was out. of. control. And when I spoke to her about it she was not phased. I told McKenna as nicely as I could that I did not want that girl in my house again.

I knew that she'd been crushing on George and she's called here a couple of times but I didn't do anything about it because George wasn't home to take her call. Then I was having a chat with McKenna just about school and life in general where McKenna informs me that this girl had been suspended from school....for flashing some boys.

Uh wait. What?????

Yep you read that right. This girl is in 5th grade people! 5th!!

I then told McKenna to nicely inform this "friend" to stay away from my son. Either McKenna didn't tell her or this girl ignored that little piece of advice.

Today George came home to tell me that this older girl had taken him to a part of a field away from other kids and told him to cover his eyes because she had something for him. So he did. And she leaned in and gave him a kiss on the lips! George was stunned, to say the least.

I know this happened because afterwards she then went and told McKenna what she had done. McKenna then told her not so politely to "Back off!" To which the girl responded with what McKenna called "attitude." Lovely.

If it had been any other girl than this girl, who seems to be exceptionally aggressive when it comes to boys, I might have left it alone. But I can't. I won't. I called the principal. She was in a meeting so I left her a voicemail to have her call me. This isn't something that I want to leave a message about or email. I want to talk to her.

She didn't get back to me. I'm hoping that she didn't have time to check her voicemail and I'll hear from her in the morning. I don't necessarily want anything to "happen" to this girl per say. I would just like her spoken to. To let her know that this behavior is unacceptable.

I really didn't think that this was something I was going to have to deal with while George was in 4th grade. I mean, come. on. It scares the helk (thanks for that word Crash) out of me. If crap like this is going down in 4th grade I don't know if I will survive the teen years. I survived my own, but my kids' may be the death of me yet.

What would you do if you were in my shoes? Am I over reacting by calling the principal? I don't know the girl's parents at all so I don't really feel comfortable calling them. And this did happen at school.

I've told George to stay away from her from here on out.

But I tell you what if stuff like this keeps up there will be MORE Trouble right here in River City with a HUGE capital "T".

In the largest font size you can imagine.

23 comments:

Terresa said...

Girls flashing boys...in 5th grade? Yikes! That's one big ScArY!!!

PS: You wore Tevas to your wedding? No way...How sweet!!

Kristina P. said...

Honestly, working with the kids I do, I think that a lot of parents overreact to situations in school.

However, this is not one of them. I would definitely go to the principal.

Rachel said...

Overreacting? I think you're doing great. Me? I would have broken down the principal's door when she didn't call me back! Then I would have changed schools! Okay, maybe not, but I think you'e doing good.

Lara said...

Yes, the principal definitely needs to be involved with this. Scary times. 5th grade? I hate how fast our kids are having to grow up in this world.

You go, mama. Let us know how it all turns out.

Jessica G. said...

Whoa...this is not good! I really hope you get to chat with the principal about this! First, flashing, and now kissing? I'm more than a little nervous about what might come next...

Becca said...

Not overreacting at all! I would have done the same thing. And I'm sorry, things like this make me even less ready for my kids to grow up.

Brooke said...

I totally agree with your actions. There's no way she should be doing any of what she's doing. dang! 5th grade? wow...

Christa said...

I don't think you are overreacting at all. I also don't think that just talking to this girl is going to get through to her. If she has zero respect for others, all she's going to hear is "blah, blah, blah" and then do it again and again. It sounds like she needs some serious intervention right now, when she's young. Or, maybe a good spanking. ☺ Plus, I think her parents do need to be involved as well. I can really see it going nowhere fast if her parents aren't made to be accountable for her as well.

♫ Spasm ♫ said...

the democrate in me suggests to think that she is acting like this for a reason. That would be a concern. The momma bear in me says " get a meeting fast!" if she is flashing and now agressive, you bet, I'd be all over that! keeping in mind somehting fishy is going on w/ her needing attention like that :(

Neurotic Chic said...

Makes you wonder what is going on at home - or what has happened to her that she has this need for sexual attention. :(

I would have let the principal know, too. Seems like this behavior will only get worse and it's really sad. I don't blame you at all for wanting her to stay away from George.

And if a boy was doing this to a little girl? The principal would be all over it.

Wendy said...

And I wondered why the General YW Presidency decided to change the 7 values into 8 by adding Virtue. I thought it was covered by the other values. Guess we need to be a little (a lot) more blunt with our kids. How sad.

Melinda said...

I think you reacted appropriately. The principal SHOULD know what's going on at her school! Good luck, and I hope that girl gets the help that she needs because it sounds like she has some problems!

Fugal Family said...

Be a sweaky wheel!! And make a big deal about it!! Show up at the school and tell her secretary that you will wait for the principal. When I was a teacher I knew a parent meant business if they would just show up - I took them a lot more serious over a phone call, especially more serious over an e-mail. Face to face the principal will be able to see you emotion and you can see whether or not the pricipal is taking you serious or not. Go to the school and put up as big of a stink as you have to, to make sure the principal relizes the severity of the situation. (I will get off my soap box now).

Karen said...

I agree with everyone. You need to step in and going to the principal is the best way. Sadly, in this day and age you really don't know what the parents are like and you could get yourself into a sticky situation.

veronica said...

Neurotic Chic is oh so right! If the tables were turned and a boy was doing these types of things to girls he would be outta that school fast. Don't let this one go. Get your face-to-face with the principal so he/she knows you mean business!

Barbaloot said...

Wow-in 5th grade?! I'd be nervous, too. If nothing else, I'd say your kids are doing a good job of dealing with her---even if she insists on being nuts.

Olivia Carter said...

WHOA! Heaven help me when my kids start going to school- I swear I want to lock them up!

I think you are SO in the right. I also agree with above commenter mentioning that there is probably something seriously wrong at home to cause the girl to act out this way (and to keep that in mind) and that if a boy was doing this to a girl it would be taken care of swiftly. Make sure it is for you too.

Piglet de' Erin said...

What the freak! do I know this girl. If I don't I will totally go and 'TALK' to her...if you know what I mean. That is a horrible terribe thing.

Melissa said...

We totally had to have a "sexual harassment" discussion with my middle son's 1st grade class because the girls kept chasing him and pinching his butt.

I'm right there with you. Don't ignore it. If for no other reason than the sake of that little girl.

Unfortunately most hypersexual young'uns have been molested or exposed to something like it and need HELP.

Good luck friend!

Wendyburd1 said...

This girl IS out of control!

Stephanie said...

Yikes! This post makes me want to climb right into a little "bubble" with my girls. Homeschooling is sounding better all of the time... ;)

I don't think you're overreacting by calling the principal, by the way. That girl's parents need to be informed and she needs to be held accountable for her actions.

Jo said...

5th grade?? Holy heck, where are her parents, that child needs some help. I do think you did the right thing!

Fiauna said...

So I'm just getting caught up on the blog world that I've been missing for the last week.

That does sound like TROUBLE. I wouldn't expect this type of stuff until the sixth grade.