You know how there are some people that you meet and you just click? Smiles form. Laughter ensues.
And there are other people that you don't click with right away but gradually as you learn more about each other the click comes. The smiles come a little more slowly and the laughter may be a tad more subdued but it's there. And it gets louder with time.
There are also the people that you really think you click with. People that you would love to hang out with and do things with but that clicking doesn't quite feel mutual.
Then there are the people from whom you get a definite dislike vibe. That as you chat with them or are in certain social situations with them you get the distinct feeling that they really don't like being around you. There is no effort made to come and chat with you in social situations. There is just "the vibe".
It's not that they hate you but you don't really have a lot in common and in the course of trying to find some compatible conversation piece to land on you find that you are grasping at straws. If you bring up your interests to feel out where there may or may not be a common interest they show a kind of disdain or distaste for the things that you enjoy and you can tell that they don't really want to know more about you? They don't want to smile with you. Or laugh with you.
They are the ones that you feel that that your absence would make them infinitely more comfortable than does your presence?
What do you do in situations such as this? Do you work harder to try and make that dislike go away? Or do you just make it so your absence is pretty much all that there is? Avoiding them and any interaction with them?
Me? I do the second part. When I come across those people with whom I get "the vibe" from I just back off. Sometimes I get "the vibe" from the people that I've clicked with before. So I back off. If I feel that me being around some one is causing discomfort or annoyance I remove myself from the immediate surroundings of that person.
Maybe I should fight through the discomfort. I don't know.
I've been told in the past that I have given off "the vibe". That there are people out there that think I dislike them. Which is weird because I don't think I feel that way. I guess there are people who annoy me but I do my best not to let people know if that is the case. Because usually it's something on my end and not on theirs...if that makes any sense.
When I hear that someone has said "Well I think she hates me." when I have never voiced that opinion, to me that is someone who is "projecting" their feelings. (Basically this person actually doesn't like me and is then projecting those feelings to me saying that I don't like them....clear as mud?)
THEN I think "So I am I projecting 'the vibe' onto people?"
Where do "gut feelings" or "instincts" fall into this whole arena? I really don't know.
I do know that usually when I am feeling "the vibe" there is also a "gut feeling" that goes along with it and thus my desire remove myself from the situation.
And you know I'm not even sure where I wanted to go with this or even where I'm going with it. I just had these thoughts rolling around so I wanted to get them out.
What are your feelings about "clicking" or "the vibe"? Does this happen to anyone else or am I the only one?